A List of Things I Wanted to Tell You About While I Was Away

It’s been slightly over two months since my last post (!) and while I was gone there were so many things I wanted to tweet and/or blog about. Better late than never, right?:

  • Stop what you are doing and make corn tortillas from scratch. If not right this second put it on your list. You will not be disappointed (unless you don’t do grains. In which case ignore this first one, obviously).

  • IS EGG FREEZING REALLY THE PRO-WOMAN SOLUTION?” I’m going to ruin the end of the article for you but do read the whole thing:

    But it may be safer to suggest that what women really want is not a series of ten-thousand dollar hormonal injections that will allow them to have children just in time for their chemo treatments and hip replacements. Is this, along with an 80-hour work week, what they mean by “having it all”?
    What most women want is support that will allow them to have children during their natural fertility window. What women need are strong relationships—a prerequisite for the vulnerability that having a child will require.
    Egg freezing is ultimately just a small bandage on a deep wound, and it may prove to be a false hero in an ongoing battle.

  • This article in all its glory: America’s College Kids Are a Bunch of Mollycoddled Babies (It ought to terrify us that they’ll be running the country someday.)

    These are kids—and we’re talking about full-time “traditional” students on four-year campuses, not the job-holding, family-supporting, career-minded folks more apt to be found in community colleges, trade schools and the University of Phoenix—who have long been accustomed to getting their own way with just about everything, hovered over and indulged by their parents, praised (and grade-inflated) by their teachers and carefully cushioned from every form of risk, adversity and hardship.”       

    “And consider what the nation faces when this crop of prissy, protected and self-absorbed young people start running for office, leading the country, making foreign and domestic policies. Who will shelter them from everything they don’t already believe and welcome? How will they deal with a Putin or an Assad? A Snowden or a Madoff? Kiddie porn and hurricanes? Who will trigger their warnings, lest they become upset? Will they tackle such challenges, or just protest them?”

  • Namely for the Catholics out there- Alice von Hildebrand: “Man and Woman”. The video is an hour and a half and she can be hard to hear but it’s well worth the watch even if you only agree with 50% of what she puts out there.

I hope everyone has been well!

xoxo, Margery

Fit Friday #15

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How did you get moving this week?


  • 15lb Kettlebell swings | x15
  • 8lb dumbbell curl to press | x15
  • 8lb dumbbell row to rear fly | x15
  • 8lb dumbbell kickbacks | x15
  • 15lb Kettlebell swings | x15
  • Bicycles | x15
  • Reverse crunch | x15
  • Pilates roll-ups | x15
  • 15lb Kettlebell swings | x15
  • 40lb sandbag deadlift | x15
  • 40lb sandbag weighted glute bridge | x15
  • 15lb Kettlebell swings | x15

I was coming down with whatever bug my husband and kids had over the weekend so this workout was pure murder on me. It took way longer than it should have and I just felt like utter crap. Tooting my own horn here, because I persevered! But I did have a hard time staying on my feet all day and my walk suffered, only got in 20 or 30 minutes very slow paced.


I was sick as a dog today. I did some stretches in bed.


Managed a slow paced 45 minute walk.


Was abnormally exhausted today (pretty sure getting over cold related) but managed some brief arm exercises and stretching. Plank. Didn’t bother to keep track. 20 kettlebell swings.


Made a point to do something more today.

  • 15lb Kettlebell swings | x15
  • 8lb dumbbell curl to press | x15
  • 8lb dumbbell row to rear fly | x15
  • 8lb dumbbell kickbacks | x15
  • 15lb Kettlebell swings | x15
  • Bicycles | x15
  • Reverse crunch | x15
  • Pilates roll-ups | x15
  • 15lb Kettlebell swings | x15
  • 40lb sandbag deadlift | x15
  • 40lb sandbag weighted glute bridge | x15
  • 15lb Kettlebell swings | x15

What was your go-to healthy food item or meal?

I could not get enough of oranges and cuties.

What song got you moving?

What are your plans for next week?

I want to keep up with the routine I have set out here as well as getting my miles in and easing back into Yoga with sun salutation work.

An Example of How Some Feminists Attempt to Silence

“I’m registering my concern and giving you a chance to change.”

She said this after threatening to email the Tweeter and her meaning is clear- agree with me, toe the line, or else. Feminists like to say they are the only one’s that are being silences, harassed, threatened especially online. This isn’t the case. In fact, in my own experience I have gotten far more flack from feminists than I have from others when I was a loud and proud feminist myself.

Take a look at how a simple inquiry turned into this:

The thread can be found here.

And if you aren’t following SexyIsntSexist, please do!

Fit Friday #11-#13

I know, I know- I missed Fit Friday #11 and #12. I have been staying more active, doing random spurts of yoga, kettlebell stuff, etc but haven’t been tracking anything. This Fit Friday is no different. I couldn’t tell you, essentially, what I have been doing except vague stuff like “yoga on Tuesday”. How long? No idea, I just did it. I’m feeling out of sorts, really disorganized of late, and the fitness stuff is no exception. My lack of tracking accounts for my lack of reporting though that is hardly an excuse. So my Fit Fridays pretty much look like this:

Monday: did nothing

Tuesday: did stuff- walking, yoga, kettlebell stuff

Wednesday: yoga, I think

Thursday: random kettlebell stuff when I got a minute

Friday: “hike” with family

And that’s all just from memory. I think I did random yoga stuff on Tuesday but it could have been Wednesday. That’s how blech I am right now.

How did you get moving this week?

Excepting one bad day I reached my FitBit step goal. Random spurts of being “fit” throughout the day when I get a moment to myself. Have been on my feet much more. I have been chatting with RPW from time to time and am doing that while in the kitchen, mostly.

What was your go-to healthy food item or meal?

Pink Lady apples. They are my favorite and were on sale recently.

What song got you moving?

Fell in love with the song on the GoT season 4 trailer a few weeks back. It’s been accompanying me on my walks.

What are your plans for next week?

To be more mindful of what I am and am not doing. To focus more on a schedule and keeping track. I’d like to get more kettlebell and yoga work in consistently.

Because Housewives Need Saving, Donchaknow

Folks, I am up in arms about Emma Approved. I know, I know, this is petty. It’s just a YouTube series. A modern adaptation of an Austen novel, what do you expect? Hank Green is involved, of course it’s steeped in the feminist worldview. But guys, I really love Emma and I really love modern adaptations. I love to see how things are worked out for the here and now. Though The Lizzie Bennet Diaries (a modern adaptation of Pride & Prejudice by the same people) was obviously feminist and shallow it also was interesting and entertaining. Pemberley Digital? Darcy as a hipster? Brilliant! I was so excited they decided to do Emma next and had, so far, really enjoyed watching it unfold. That was until Emma’s sister Izzy came on the scene. I saw where it was going right away with how concerned Emma was for her obviously unhappy sister. She points out that she and Izzy had been so much alike until Izzy chose to get married, have kids, and stay home; something Emma hadn’t seen coming because Izzy always seemed like a career woman to her.

“Oh great.” I said. “Here we freaking go.”

The next few videos were full of Izzy trying to play the happy wife but obviously miserable, her husband (who never appears on screen, never gives his part of the story) being portrayed as a tyrant, and Emma rushing in to save the day (read: take her sister’s side in everything).

What was the big issue? Well, Izzy felt that she wasn’t being heard. Okay, fair enough. But instead of taking the issue to her husband she decided to whine to her little sister. The thing is John (her husband) wasn’t wrong and he wasn’t being unreasonable. The things Izzy wanted were expensive and excessive. She wanted to remodel part of the home so she could see the children easier and put her daughter in daycare even though she stays home. John is a small business owner with a ten year plan and the drive to make it on their own, meaning hold onto money and not run to wealthy parents. He didn’t want to spend the money. Fair enough, right? Nope. Tyranny. Abuse. Time for some grrrrrl power! Under her sister’s guidance, she decides to “surprise” John by tricking him into a trip to Hawaii instead of the standard family camping trip to Joshua Tree. The plan backfires. John is pissed. Well of course he is! Sounds like a reasonable response to me. Izzy lied to him and schemed with her sister about it. She decided to accept this “gift” full knowing how he felt about his/their way being paid. Who wouldn’t be mad? “A good man.” the audience says “Only a real jerk would be upset” (the gist of the comments, trust me).

This is how it ends:

Not only does Alex (Mr. Knightly) backdown from an argument any reasonable person would see he would have won, not only does he sulk off to encourage his brother to lay down and play dead in his marriage, but Izzy decides to play a 2 year old (“No, I’m not going on the trip!”) and then the new and improved powerful strong remarkable independent woman she is throws out the bombshell “I want to go back to school”. Oh Lord. This is where I finally lost it. I knew this was coming, of course. No housewife in the media is portrayed as anything but in desperate need of feminist style “liberation”. Once again John is painted as the tyrant with his 10 year plan that didn’t include Izzy’s higher education (and she couldn’t have spoken up about this to him because…?!). Emma is so happy her sister has finally seen the light. And, well just go read the comments. The gist: Hallelujah! Izzy is free at last!

… (this is my fuming silence, in case you were wondering)

I already covered a bit of where Izzy went wrong. It goes without saying that this was workable from the get-go had she actually taken this to her husband and not went behind his back and pulled the rug out from under him. Bad form. Bad wife.

I am beyond disappointed (and so not surprised) that John was maligned with little to no representation. Not only was Emma willing to say “this is wrong” but the audience via the comments was widely about decrying him as an abusive man Izzy needed freeing from. No mention of the sensibility of his decisions, mind you. Hardly any call for his side to be represented. No, burn him for crimes against grrrrrl power.

It’s fiction, it’s YouTube, I get it. But we have a problem today when we can’t represent housewives and their husbands without making it into the feminist saga of liberation and tyranny. Just for a second think of the last time you saw a positive representation of a traditional marriage in the media that didn’t eventually turn into her needing to be saved and him either being a jerk or seeing the error of his ways. Just one. I’ll wait.

Feminists push for respect of STEM fields (etc) for women and girls. We need to push engineering toys for girls to encourage them to enter those types of fields. We need to have examples of strong independent career women all over the place to normalize it, show its benefit, program girls to follow in these character’s footsteps. They pay lip service to being supportive of women that opt out, that want to being housewives. “It’s about choice!” many of them say. “I respect stay-at-home moms, too!” they promise. And yet girls are shamed for playing with dolls or at very least encouraged to put them down in favor of Legos to encourage them to opt for “better” fields. Kitchen toy sets? How 1950s. Housewives? They are all miserable wretches. Just turn on any TV show that still has one and you will see. If housewives were just as valued, viewed as being as valid of a choice as, say, being a doctor or CEO, it wouldn’t be shameful for girls to play with dolls and don play aprons. If we were really respected we wouldn’t be portrayed in the media as nothing but a backdrop or in need of liberation. Actions speak louder than words. By feminist and modern actions the housewife is loathed. All I wanted was to be able to veg out in front of a YouTube series without having that shoved in my face. Is that so much to ask? Of course it is. We must never forget how low we are.

And they wonder why we feel so isolated and ignored…

A Feminist Solicited My Opinion of One of Matt Forney’s Self-Esteem Posts…

I got into a Twitter discussion with a feminist. Actually, two at once. One was… well, she left a lot to be desired. The other was a lot more reasonable and I enjoyed our conversation. The latter expressed concern over Forney, his stance on domestic violence, why he isn’t being called out on it, etc. So we talked that out a bit before she asked me my take on his How to Crush A Girl’s Self-Esteem piece. I gave a rather clunky critique of it that didn’t even come close to showing my thoughts. She said I scared her, gave a few reasons why (mostly “you’re okay with hurting women”, etc) and left. I respect that she doesn’t want to talk to me anymore but now I have all these thoughts on his post and no one to talk to about them. Lucky you, dear reader!

First off, I am never sure if Forney is being completely serious. I suspect he is not, which is probably why I can stomach him more than most. I suspect he is serious wrapped in satire which is exactly how I read it.

Second, I should probably point out that I didn’t entirely disagree with his previous article The Case Against Female Self-Esteem. I have a tendency to inject my own views into what other people are saying so maybe I completely missed the point of this but, in all honesty, the cult of self-esteem pushed on women these days is on my last nerve. I agree with him here:

 From the moment they’re old enough to speak, girls in America are bombarded with propaganda that artificially boosts their self-esteem. They’re told that they’re shpecial and you-nique because they have an extra X chromosome. They’re told that they’re smart, that they can do anything, that they deserve respect merely for existing. They’re encouraged to derive self-worth not from their inherent feminine nature but from their college degree, their job or the other illusory trappings of achievement in a man’s world.

Combine this with the white-knighting tendencies of fathers and the sexual attention that attractive girls already get from puberty forward and you have a complete social meltdown in the making.

Yeah, I’m going to have to say he is spot on here as are his first two points: 1) Most girls have done nothing to deserve self-esteem and 2) Insecurity (or, ya know, humility) is integral to femininity.

I can completely see where this among some more colorful things he said in the post makes women and feminists everywhere rage. As he said, we’re told from minute one we are special princesses deserving of everything under the sun. This guy thinks we aren’t? Hulksmash!

Now onto the more recent post. This is how I broke down my thoughts for the Twitter feminist:

It is this I would like to expound on:

1. Constantly make her feel inadequate.

I said I was 50/50 on it. This is what I meant:

You should rarely give her unqualified praise.

I feel that.

Every time she does something for you, find out what she did wrong and remind her of it. If you can’t find any problems, make some up.

Not so much.

I think he is on to something here ie: not letting a woman get away with her inadequacies, expecting more, etc. Remember, we are talking about women here that have grown up in a society where they can do no wrong. Showing us we can is actually pretty important, IMO. Life changing stuff. But making stuff up? Going on the hunt for it? Reeks of desperation. A little too heavy-handed, a little too much.

2. Dominate her physically and sexually.

I said I more or less agreed with it, this is what I meant:

I was going to quote him but as he gets a bit graphic I’ll spare you, delicate flowers that we are (she says in jest). “Push her boundaries” is the gist of it. I do think this is important in a relationship that deals with an unequal balance of power. He pushes a little, she gives in a little more. Note, we’re talking pushing here not steamrolling. “I’m willing to submit to you in as far as I control all aspects of it” isn’t submission. Well, it’s BDSM submission but not the real life everyday kind (BTW, for those that don’t get how this is different than kink, there’s your answer).

3. Isolate her from her friends and family.

This is the big one, the one I really wanted to address. I said that he had a great point that I could go on about but couldn’t on Twitter because of space, this is what I meant:

You need to be the primary emotional influence in her life, and you can’t do that if she’s leaning on anyone else for support.

He’s not wrong. Isolation is a strong word, a bit extreme, I do agree with that much. But the underlying point is that you can’t ever underestimate, male or female, how many people want to drive a wedge. I don’t even mean purposefully, just with their ideas about themselves, you, life, your partner, etc. Cleave to your husband. That’s what this comes down to. What other people are saying and doing shouldn’t matter as much as what he is. Yet the way things are now the reverse is suppose to be true. In fact, anything but is considered abusive on one level or another. We need to remember and respect that we are our husband’s wives not everyone else’s. The idea that their opinions should matter is a false one. You revolve around him, not family or friends. This is advice I give even to my non Red Pill/traditional friends. Respecting your partner is about respecting him above everyone else. Now, this isn’t to say you can never be with, talk to, etc anyone but him. This is to say you lean on him more than anyone else.

4. Reward her at random intervals.

This one I was wrong about in lumping it in with all the agrees. Rewarding is important, yes. Rewarding at random intervals is an interesting concept, I’ll give him that much, one I am still mulling over.

5. Give her an emotional release.

I know that this one is controversial, even among TRP, but I can say it can be beneficial for many women. This deserves it’s own post, though.

6. F*** her like it’s your last day on Earth.

I just like this one because sex. And, yes, orgasm control is a win-win scenario. You’re just going to have to trust me on this one.


I get that the joke could really be on me in this in either reading too much or too little into what he says. It is what it is. I find at least some of what he says to be beneficial and humorously put which is why I read him. Reading his stuff objectively is not the same thing as cosigning on every last one of his ideas, contrary to popular belief. Just thought I would throw that out there because apparently these days it needs to be said.

Valentine’s Day, Finances, The Surrendered Wife, Dirty Houses, Unruly Kids, and a FitBit

I’ve been off my game lately. Here, there, and everywhere. It’s funny how things can knock you off track even just an inch or so and everything goes nuts. Nothing too crazy, just “off”. So I haven’t been around here much, either blogging or reading the blogs I am subscribed to. I tweet in spurts mostly when the kids are having their piano lessons or otherwise engaged. My biggest disappointment is how I have let GBG go. So many grand plans, so little time. I did update this blog (obviously) and brought my avatar into a more recent century. Nighttime boredom while The Man was at work and the kids getting along.

But this isn’t suppose to be all ‘woe is me’, I wanted to give you all a quick update:

  • Valentine’s Day itself wasn’t anything especially Valentine’s-y. We had a family day; a great one, in fact, that was much needed. We never manage to do anything grand for V Day even though every year we say to each other “Next year we should ___________”. I’m not sure if we should just keep on with this or plan a whole other “Next year we should ___________”.
  • We’ve reached a financial goal and are very very proud and excited. Things have gotten better since he took over the finances and we initiated the ‘wife’s envelope system’. I talked about this briefly here but I want to make a whole post about it. Financially though we reached a goal we’ve been obsessively watching things the past few weeks as we have had car trouble and that is bleeding us. One step forward, one step back…
  • Re-reading The Surrendered Wife has been beneficial to me for two reasons- I need the refresher right now (stress always brings out the worse in us, right?) and it’s been a real look back at how far I have come. I read this stuff now and think “Oh, I do this!” not realizing I do it because I read it in the book and it was once a big chore, a big uphill battle whereas now it’s just something I do. Yay! But there are also things in the book we/I have sort of moved out of. More on this later.
  • My house is a stye, y’all. Well, at least it is to me. The kids and I worked on their rooms which made the front of the house a disaster. I know, it seems weird but this always happens to us. We focus on one place and all other places go crazy. We’ll catch up but right now I am just really overwhelmed and frustrated. The Man is planning on renting a truck and we’re going to get rid of a ton of stuff soon. I. Cannot. Wait.
  • Oh and the kids. My older 3 are fine, it’s still the twins. These two… Well, they are like having two super hyper toddlers that feed off of each other. It’s been a real power struggle of late with Twin A, especially. She likes to think she rules the house, she’s the boss. I’m, of course, having none of it. So a lot of butting heads, stare offs, fits being thrown, etc. Exercises in keeping my cool but staying firm. I’m pretty sure the bulk of my stress can be placed on her. I hate to say it, most mothers do, but I’m pretty sure I am going to go gray and every last strand will have [Twin A] written on it. I will say this, though, switching to a more one-on-one based homeschool has done wonders!
  • A few days before Valentine’s Day I got two surprise gifts- a FitBit One and a bottle of my favorite perfume. Squee! I was laying in bed as he had come home late being rather grumpy about the day (Twin A was especially difficult) and in he comes with flowers and a Victoria’s Secret bag. I was totally surprised. Had no idea. This year’s Steak and BJ Day, our first celebrating, is going to be spectacular! I’ll review the FitBit One for this week’s Fit Friday (I hope).

I think that about covers the stuff going on right now. I hope to carve out some time to post at least some of the million (slight exaggeration) post ideas I have had of late. Until then, I hope this all finds you well!

It’s Certainly Not About Health (I’m ranting again)

There is a lot of concern over pro-ana/mia sentiment on the internet. So much, in fact, that if you search “thinspo” on Tumblr you get this:

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When you search it on Pinterest you get this banner at the top:

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And though you do see really scary images in thinspo searches (especially on Tumblr) what you mostly see are images like this:

screenshot of Pinterest "thinspo" search

screenshot of Pinterest “thinspo” search

I get it, I really do.We do this because anorexia is bad and it is harmful and we’re scared more and more girls and women are falling prey to it, etc. We want to promote healthy not unhealthy lifestyles. Right? Sounds good? Except not.

Here’s what you get when you search “plus sized” on Tumblr:

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Here’s what you get when you search “plus sized” on Pinterest:

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Where are the warnings? Where are the hotlines for binge eating disorders or the information about calories and proper nutrition?

This isn’t about health. If it were about health we could be honest about weight being connected to health and what we eat. Instead we are living in denial, where skinny is the enemy and fat is totally normal and good AND MUST BE ACCEPTED, YOU JERKS! Many people would think the plus sized women are a healthy size while the thin women in the thinspo images above are unhealthy and must be starving themselves; and that number is growing. We are so disordered in our thinking and in our diets in our society that we want to recreate what healthy is in order to justify our gluttony.

I’m not trying to say that searching “thinspo” and searching “plus size” is the same exact thing, either. But what can you search that is pro-fat that would give you the same sort of warning? And are we not throwing the baby out with the bathwater with “thinspo”? Though, as I said, it can get scary most images are about promoting skinny/thin/fit vs. anorexia. Are we so far gone that promoting skinny at all is “disordered” in some way? It seems the answer to that is an emphatic ‘yes’. Because somehow this picture embracing obesity is better than this other one embracing thinness.

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The truth is that both of the women above support disordered eating*, yet it’s only en vogue to stigmatize one for it. Instead of focusing on health, like we purport to be doing, we are focused on feeling good about our fat (not ourselves, our fat) and we’re suppose to go to great lengths to make everyone else feel good about their fat and bad about any semblance of thinness or fitness. For now we are concern trolling “thinspo” but, rest assured, “fitspo” is nextThis girl wants a plus-sized Disney Princess. The article correctly asks “isn’t that an unhealthy ideal, too?” Yes. Of course it is! But remember; this isn’t actually about health, this is about acceptance of one thing to the point of fostering prejudices towards another. Fit Shaming, anyone? How about “real women have curves”, “real men want meat, not bones”, etc?

Though I don’t agree with her diet choices Freelee (a vegan high carb raw foodist) is absolutely right about this. Watch her video if you get the chance (WARNING: cursing):

And her video on Fit/Skinny Shaming is worth a watch, as well.

* Granted, I have met at least 2 women in my life that were naturally as thin as “hip bones” girl, but they are rare and for most women seeing hip bones and having that low of a fat percentage isn’t healthy. This is where the promoting of disordered eating comes in.

Fit Friday #9

(About Fit Friday | This week’s Fit Friday)

How did you get moving this week?

*edited from earlier today- not sure why I scheduled this post last night when I knew I’d be on my treadmill first thing in the morning. The edit is to account for what I did today. I originally had put down 11.3 miles. 

I reached my goal!!! 15 miles this week. 15.3, to be exact. An even bigger plus, I have been able to increase my running time.

I did manage to do a mini strength work out on Tuesday. It seems that I can never manage to tackle more than one thing at a time. This week I was so focused on getting my miles in I neglected the strength side of things. I gave myself a bit of leeway here, decided to get the miles down and this coming week I will start adding in strength.


  • 15lb kettlebell swing 30x
  • 15lb kettlebell single arm overhead press x10 each side
  • squat with 15lb kettlebell 10x

Not as active throughout the day as I would like to be but in all honesty this is getting a little hard to gauge. I feel that I’m not being as active as I’d like to be but at the same time am wondering how do I know this? I want to see numbers! That FitBit is looking better and better everyday.

What was your go-to healthy food item or meal?

Chobani key lime yogurt is my new favorite thing ever (hardly the best healthy thing out there (compared to, say, raw spinach) so keep in mind the “good, better, best” thing here).

What song got you moving?

What are your plans for next week?

  • As stated above getting to the strength side of things. I need to get to that ToneItUp kettlebell workout.
  • Continuing to get in 15 miles a week
  • Upping my speed

FF Link Up:

“Strong Independent Women” Are So Darn Weak

I joined an all woman Facebook group a little bit ago. Yeah, that happened. I bet you can guess how well it went, too.

This particular group fell into Team Woman before anyone could blink and the posts about Big Meany Head Husbands came in no time:

“He doesn’t want me doing this.”

“He isn’t supportive enough.”

“He thinks I am overdoing it.”

The response was as you would expect, too:

“If my husband ever said that to me he wouldn’t be my husband.”

“How dare he! Do it anyway.”

“Obviously he is insecure and weak. How sad.”

I didn’t buy any of the husband bashing posts for one second. They were very cherry-picked and always the women would come back and share a bit more “Well, he thinks it’s unhealthy.” or “He’s concerned about how it will impact the family.” I’m not saying I necessarily agreed with their husbands but that is besides the point. Where is their respect? Why are they complaining about this online to strangers? Thankfully I wasn’t the only woman that stood up for their husbands but we were very few. Because women that are pro men and husbands?

And, oh boy, when a woman stands on the side of a man? Well…

“We are here to be supportive.”

“How can you be so mean-spirited and judgmental?”

“The suffragettes that fought for our freedom are rolling in their graves.”

On and on it goes.

So what is up with all of these Strong Independent Women needing to come and complain to strangers about their men? If they are so strong and independent can’t they handle their own? And why is a little bit of scrutiny so damaging to them? “Don’t say that! You can only be supportive!” Well then, I can tell you are super firm in your beliefs and life choices. /sarcasm

Over and over we are told we submissive/traditional women are doormats unable to think for ourselves. Over and over we are told women that “need” men are weak and dependent. But look at these women! Look at how they can’t handle being talked to the way they talk to or about their men, how they can’t handle being told “I don’t find people that look like you sexually appealing” without having to start a body acceptance “revolution” that aims to shout down anyone who would dare have a different preference. I know this has been talked about time and time again and far better than what I am saying here but it never ceases to amaze me how weak people will forever and always try and make what makes them weak the new definition of “strong”.

I feel bad for these women, because when you live in an echo chamber like that you’re going to continue to be miserable without knowing why.

Women, please don’t be afraid of getting your feelings hurt. Let them hurt, there is a lesson in it for us. Be uncomfortable, it’s how we learn and grow. If your husband says something that hurts your feelings don’t retreat to crying and complaining. Okay, well maybe retreat to crying until you can pull yourself together but then go to him and ask him for clarification. Talk it out and examine yourself “why does this hurt my feelings? What can I do about it?” And don’t just do this with your husbands! Do it with everyone and everything: “Why does that woman submitting to her husband offend me so?” or “Why does that woman opting for a childfree lifestyle offend me so?” Examine yourself, really get down in there and find the answer. But please stop wasting your and everyone else’s time with all of this whiney “just feel sorry for me” stuff while stamping your foot and declaring yourself to be strong and independent. If you have to throw a hissy about it, it ain’t true. If you need people to come to your rescue, it ain’t true. If someone else disagreeing with you sends you into hysterics, it ain’t true.

Strong women are women that own their choices without needing others to own them for them. They can be married, single, lesbians, hetero, mothers, childfree, atheists, Christians, what have you! The point is they own what they are and don’t need people to validate it for them, they don’t go crying to Mommy.